With the reports about STDs that currently flood the airwaves and the alarming rates that people are contracting them, you may be wondering if you can you enjoy an active sex life and still be well protected against sexually transmitted diseases? By adopting healthy habits and avoiding a few dangerous behaviors, you can greatly reduce your STD risk. Here are nine important changes to make.
1. Don't decide about sex when under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
Just as you wouldn't endanger yourself or a friend by getting behind the wheel, don't make sexual decisions when your judgment may be impaired. If your singles scene is one in the same with the bar scene, this can be a difficult guideline to follow. But under the influence of drugs or alcohol, people tend to relax their own rules and standards. In such a state one is more likely to choose the "wrong" partner -- especially an anonymous one -- and less likely to use protection.
Drugs and sex mix together in an even more dangerous cocktail when one partner has HIV or hepatitis B. Both of these blood-borne illnesses can be contracted by needle and then passed along through sexual contact, or vice versa.
2. Think ahead.
On a great date or a fun night out with friends, it's easy to be taken adrift by waves of adrenaline, intoxication, or passion. If you decide ahead of time what you will and will not do -- and perhaps tell a friend who can look out for you -- your good judgment may come to the rescue later in the night. Thinking ahead goes hand in hand with No. 1 ("Don't make decisions under the influence").
3. Have a candid discussion with your partner.
Information is protection. While this may not be the sexiest notion out there, it's invaluable to know everything your partner knows about his or her sexual health-bearing in mind that a person could be infected with HIV, HPV or herpes without knowing it.
Granted, initiating such a conversation is awkward.
"People can get defensive about this, so make it a two-way conversation -- not a lecture or monologue," advises Fred Wyand, media and communications manager at the American Social Health Association (ASHA). "Insist on using protection, and if the issue of testing comes up then it's something both partners can do. The reality is that STDs can affect anyone regardless of number of partners, so it's not a question of sleeping around."
If you manage the situation well and your partner is still not mature enough to have the conversation, you may want to rethink the sex. Also, it's hard to establish much trust on a one-night stand -- another reason to use protection or resist anonymous encounters altogether.
4.Decrease the number of sexual partners.
"People most commonly think that by having two partners instead of one, they will only double their chances of contracting an STD. But that is dramatically incorrect at the population level," says Dr. Douglas Kirby, a veteran research scientist at ETR Associates, a nonprofit health education organization.
We don't add risk with each new partner -- we multiply it. How can this be? Think back to Sex Ed 101, where we learned that we "sleep with everyone our partner sleeps with." According to a nationwide survey released in 2007 by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the median number of sexual partners over a lifetime is seven for men and four for women. With a first encounter we make our debut into that sexual network.
5. Avoid concurrent sexual partners (and partners with concurrent partners).
"Concurrent" partners means having two or more sexual relationships simultaneously. "Sequential" partners, on the other hand, have relationships that follow one another in succession with no overlap.
If for no other reason than to reduce STD risk, stick with sequential partners. The average sexually active person has between one and three partners at a time. But small increases in that number have a huge impact on the size of the network. It's kind of like that old shampoo commercial where you tell two friends, and they tell two friends, and they tell two friends. But instead of getting clean hair, they're getting gonorrhea.
Consider a man with four concurrent partners. We'll call him Charlie. If any one of Charlie's partners infects him with an STD, he will infect the other three women. They are all swimming in the same viral pool.
But if Charlie has four sequential relationships instead, the number of infected people is likely to be fewer. Let's say he first has a relationship with Lucy, then with Patty, then Marcy, then Violet. If Marcy gives Charlie syphilis, he may infect Violet but not Lucy or Patty.
6. Increase the time gap between sexual partners.
Sequential partnering provides further protection when time elapses between relationships. As a rule, viral loads decrease with time. If someone contracts an STD, the viral load may decline enough over a few months to the point that it's not transmissible to the next partner at all.
7. Use a condom correctly and consistently during every act of sex.
Men have been known to use condoms in any number of creative albeit inadvisable ways. Errors include flipping a condom inside out to re-use it; washing and re-using it; putting it on immediately prior to climax but after penetration; using the same condom for two different acts of penetration; continuing sex after it slips off; and not buying one in the first place.
One inadvertent misuse is when a man attempts to wear a condom but realizes it won't roll on because the wrong side is facing him. So he simply flips it around. But a small amount of semen will remain on the first side where he tried to push through. If he has an STD, that side is infected -- and that's the side exposed to his partner.
8. Get tested and treated for STDs.
The CDC has suggested that screening and treatment for chlamydia, the most common STD among young women, could reduce incidence of pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) by more than 50 percent. Yet a lack of awareness -- and of clinical resources -- leaves more women susceptible than not. Plus, women can become re-infected by male partners who have not been diagnosed or treated.
Tests and treatments are a powerful combination for fending off STDs, especially for people who also maintain monogamous relationships. Says Kirby, "Assuming neither partner has an incurable STD and the relationship really is mutually monogamous, that's a very safe [scenario] for them. Each knows the other has been tested and treated safely. If you look at people of college age, being in a mutually monogamous relationship is probably the most common method of preventing STD."
9. Get vaccinated.
STD vaccinations remain somewhat controversial, in part because they are less than 100 percent effective and because side effects are possible. Still, the two most common vaccinations -- for hepatitis B and human papillomavirus -- have been gaining mainstream acceptance. The HPV vaccine is estimated to provide over 90 percent protection. The HPV vaccine now recommended for young girls does not cover all strains of the virus, but it prevents two strains that cause 70 percent of cervical cancer cases and two strains that cause 90 percent of genital warts.
As Kirby is quick to acknowledge, changing nine behaviors is a lot to ask. Just remembering nine ideas is tough, especially when passion comes into play -- you can almost picture all this good will meeting a quick end as a man fumbles for a condom with one hand and his list of behaviors with the other. Armed with a little awareness, though, we can take the first steps toward keeping ourselves and our partners safe.
Article Courtesy of BlackDoctor.org
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By: Beverly on 2/02/2008 6:50PM
The only safe sex is ABSTINENCE ! REPENT!(For the lost and spiritually dead folks) ~~>People,
Realize this: God created "us" mankind (man & woman). He KNOWS what's BEST for us. His Word changes NOT! He created sex for married couples (a man and woman)ONLY. He also said abstain from & FLEE fornication, (youthful lust). He provided us with a 'will'(the ability to make choices). So, when a person chooses to willfully disobey God, consequences are inevitable. To the rebellious, continue to have sex as you so please (you will reap what you sow)!
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By: Mrs. John Wyche on 3/22/2008 8:35AM
IMPOSSIBLE black folk breed like rats. Telling black folk not to have sex is like telling them not steal black hair care products! Thank you. I had a dream.
Happy Birfday to me. Im out.
YOU ARE SO DUMB THAT YOU THINK ASPHALT IS RECTUM TROUBLE! IT IS QUITE OBVIOUS THAT YOU ARE MORE THAN LIKELY WHITE, UNEDUCATED, MINIMUM WAGE EARNER AND HAVE AN S.T.D. YOURSELF. PERHAPS THAT IS WHY YOU ARE WISHING YOURSELF "HAPPY BIRTHDAY" AS YOU KNOW THAT YOU DON'T HAVE MANY MORE!
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By: The Man on 3/23/2008 6:00AM
What about "threesomes?? 2 clean females are better than a dirty 1. I have 1 female who likes to find us company in bed. She does the checking for STDs over a period of time through communication and other means. 4 years and still running, (knock on wood), there has not been 1 incident of contracting a STD.
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By: Tom Geller on 1/10/2008 4:31AM
#4, 5, and 6 are misleading. In practice, *what* you do has far more impact than the number of people you do it with.
The smart person is more comfortable getting with some hoochie who insists on condoms than a "virgin" who doesn't.
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By: M L King on 1/10/2008 7:56AM
IMPOSSIBLE black folk breed like rats. Telling black folk not to have sex is like telling them not steal black hair care products!
Thank you. I had a dream.
Happy Birfday to me.
Im out.
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By: JC on 1/11/2008 8:42AM
Excellent Sex Advice That All Of "US" (Regardless Of Race) Could Benefit From!
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By: Sam on 1/11/2008 3:37PM
This is just about the saddest situation I have seen for human beings. We are a sexual people, supposed to procreate, etc. It is normal and natural. Yet some men/women are so evil they would not care about passing any and every STD on to a sexual partner. And it could happen in a nannosecond and change your life forever.
Your advice is good advice but it does not protect the good from the evil. Although I ask every question and give every answer to a potential sexual partner, I still tremble at the thought of having a sexual encounter. I have abstained for 7 years. Never heard of anyone getting an STD from masturbation.
This despite interviewing, literally, potential mates.I want to do a background check. I need your name, last four digits of social--sort of like an FBI check. Any objections or lies and that is the end of any possibility of anything. If you will lie about these unimportant things, then surely you would lie about the important things like if you are HIV+.
It is no longer, no glove, no love. It is let US go for testing together, any objection? then I am gone.
I want to know if you are a drug user (that means the company you keep is not savory), have more than one partner at one time (avoids diseases and drama like your friend knocking at the hotel door to kill both of us), are being stalked by a jealous past lover from 10 years ago... I have a right to know!!! I have a right to make these decisions myself.
Amazing the lengths people will go through to get you in bed. Met a guy. Nice guy. Intelligent guy. Working guy. Did the investigation. Everything SEEMED in order. Then he disappeared. No problem. I went on with my life. He reappeared with a note in my mailbox that he had been in an auto accident? Re-investigation revealed he had been in jail for drug use, etc. That is it. He lied.
Young people keep yourselves safe. I know it is difficult and time consuming. But love yourself enough!
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By: Ms. Shelly on 1/11/2008 10:18PM
This comment is for "M L KING". Your comment you made was; "IMPOSSIBLE" black folk breed like rats. telling black folk not to have sex is like telling them not to steal black hair care products". I don't think the article was telling black people not to have sex, but to be protected, be educated about it, and be safe. It is "POSSIBLE", to stop having babies after babies if you are not married. We need to break this "Cycle"! If you are married, want to have kids, than that's what you and your spouse wants. "God" says, when you are married, "Sex" is right with your spouse and you shouldn't have sex before marriage".
It is "POSSIBLE", to stop having unprotected sex and having multiple partners, if you are not married and that's what you want to do. We shouldn't blame alcohol, drugs, or the devil for or decisions and actions we make in our lives! We need to be more educated about "Sex", be more "Responsive", and be "Safe" in how we choose to live our lifestyle. Any decision we make will result in "Life" or "Death"!
It is "POSSIBLE" to be "Abstinence". Just because your peers or friends are doing doesn't mean that you have to do it too? People are going to do the "World's Way" instead of doing it "God's Way". People should make better choices and right decisions in their lives to protect themselves form "STD'S", "HIV", or "HPV" if they are not committed in a marriage relationship if that's what they want to do. We all need to realize what the "Consequences" that may happen in having unprotected sex or multiple sex partners. We all should want to live a "Healthy" and "safe" life"! We all need to make better choices and make right decisions for our lives in "2008" and the years to come!
"Peace"!
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By: miss hakim on 1/11/2008 1:15PM
M L King you are not fooling anybody. I know a racist honkey when I see one, plain and true. So stay off of Black Voices if you have such ignorant things to say. It must be a rainy day in the trailer park today since you have nothing better to do. Go to the KKK website and blog on there about shotguns and f@cking your sister you uneducated piece of shit.
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By: Gary on 1/17/2008 12:42AM
I agree with Ms. Shelly. But I was dumb and stupid and gave in because of peer pressure and now I stop because I do not want to give mine new woman friend anything from mine past girlfriends. So in a way, I'm saving myself and her. All nine of the questions are nothing but trouble for the next generation coming up cause they are too dumb and hot between the legs. They have no respect for themselves nor their parents.
You know what I'm talking about: "A BUNCH OF KNOW-IT-ALL!"
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