
Last month, a 29-year-old unemployed South Carolina mother, sent shockwaves across the nation when she confessed to committing filicide when she killed her two sons because she had no means of taking care of them.
And the mayor of an affluent Dallas suburb reportedly killed her 19-year-old daughter before turning the gun on herself in the face of financial distress, including almost losing her home to foreclosure.
Indeed, these are tough economic times. And mental health professionals report that people are growing increasingly desperate and calling hotlines for help.
Terrie M. Williams, author of 'Black Pain: Real Talk For When There's Nowhere to Go But Up' and a licensed clinical social worker, told Black Voices that today's economic environment is when people vulnerable to depression or those who are depressed need to take the extra steps to seek mental health treatment.
Equally as important, Williams said, is for family and friends to reach out to those who are depressed to ensure they are okay. Looking for signs of trouble and knowing the right questions to ask may help, she said.
"Ask a probing question,'' Williams said. "'I heard you say such and such. I was really wondering what you were thinking or feeling.' Sometimes that just gives a person a license to initiate a conversation that that they wouldn't have because they have always been thought of as the strong one. I've seen it so many times.''
Sometimes all a person needs is an opening.
"Sometimes we think it's none of our business," she said. "If you see something, call it. You could really be a lifeline for that person.''
Some signs of depression include: insomnia; weight loss or gain; forgetfulness; lack of concentration and never wanting to go anywhere or do anything. If a person is experiencing economic problems, her or she should seek help from reputable credit counselors and lawyers.
Carl Bell, Ph.D., a renowned Chicago-based psychiatrist, suggests that the economy is not responsible for the death toll. He says people who commit these crimes are already suffering from a major psychiatric illnesses.
"If you have a major psychiatric illness, it causes people to catastrophize,'' he said. "You tend to think, 'Oh, my God, this will never end.' That is not helpful. You feel hopeless and nobody needs that.''
Dr. Bell suggests seven things that people need:
Create a village of friends and family for moral and emotional support.
Eat a proper diet that includes Omega III fish oil and read spiritual texts, which help people keep hope.
Connect to something good and of value, such as yoga, exercise, book and movie groups.
Develop a strong sense of self-esteem, which is defined as a sense of power. It leads to positive ways of thinking, such as "I may not be able to pay my bills, but I'm with my family."
Nurture good social and emotional skills. If people know how to regulate their tempers that is an emotional skill. If a person knows how to talk to a bill collector without upsetting them and getting themselves into deeper trouble, that is a social skill.
Develop a strong safety net. Have people check in on you to help keep track of your bills, clothes and phone calls.
Minimize trauma. So, a person is broke, but started a garden at the beginning of the summer. They can sell or eat those fruit and vegetables. It's called mastering your destiny.
In other words, don't allow friends and relatives to give up. Help them to "stay strong," as Williams often says.


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By: are you serious on 9/23/2010 6:53AM
how do you go see a doctor if you are broke.... I am 39yrs old. jobless, seperated from my wife, and have to move out , so soon to be homeless and alone what can a dr. do for that!!!!
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By: El Jibaro De Lytle Creek on 11/01/2010 2:01PM
If I understand you ; your request if for a good doctor to treat the whole person instead of just systemic approach with generic Rx?
Physician heal thyself; since the highest proportion of practioners are deeply embedded surfs of world wide financial, their focus is to come out from under their burdens. You crying out for help to those made deaf by [you choose a sin]can't help because they can not understand the desease.
What is the RX? The gnostic notion of all truth is found within oneself, if that individual is capable of asking truth specic questions.
The oppression of responsibility, requires the unsung hero to select a path least chosen. Go ahead and do what only you can expect of yourself.
El Jibaro De Lytle creek
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By: Nolee on 9/23/2010 9:42AM
I've been married with four children for 17 years, but it has been tough quite a while.
We are willing to work, but in our small town there really are no jobs.
We get blessings through churches and different organizations at times like holidays because of my kids, but money always put pressure on our marriage.
I know he's trying, but what he brings with his part time job wage and unemployment, it is just not enough.
Everyday my words get very mean and hostile towards him and that doesn't help, I know.
And he get frustrated with me being a stay home mom and he's the only one bringing in income.
We have always managed to get by but because of my luck of respect with him and him not wanting to put up with it anymore, we are feeling more angry towards each other.
But we are too broke to move out or take a vacation to enjoy each other like before we had kids or anything else.
I feel very close to home with people commit suicide and involve their children. I wouldn't dare think about killing my own kids, but I feel so sad for the tragity we hear almost everyday.
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By: leonard johnson on 9/23/2010 12:47PM
nolee if you are a family you will pull together and come through this. get a job stop spoiling your children in fact if they are old enough put them to work. joy should be not in your comfort but in your family unit. you have a brain redirect it
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By: ann on 9/23/2010 1:16PM
It easy for other to sit and judge if you are not in that situation how can you tell how someone feels. Just because you been through it does not me you are depressed or crazy just means you are tired. so if I go to the doctor which will not see you if you do not have money. They will fill you full of pills antidepressant which will or will not help you, another vise for you to worry about. Not dealing with the route of the problem that put you in the mind frame in the first place. I been there and done that came out being diagnoised with all kind of mental illnesses and put on all kind of med. Had to miss time from work to get use to the med. which put me even further behind on my bills, I notice the bill collectors werer not saying oh Ann dont worry about it Iknow you are sick we will not cut your gas or electric off. The doctors saying hay we will pay your mortage while you are being hospitalized. When I finally got a touch of reality my house was in foreclosure my job was ready to fire me and my utilities all had shut off notices. Lets address the real issue. Stop saying everyone has depression or mental illness. Just another crutch. Start a Garden sell the veg. ok. yeah should we stand on the street corner and do this? At this time and day. Lets get real people time are very hard and its easy for people to see how bleak time really are. Give some hope and quit making it look like everyone needs to be on meds. I am not saying some people dont need Med. I am thats not the answer for everyone.
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By: leonard johnson on 9/23/2010 2:59PM
again i say family all you mention was you. probably have children but no family. you have been lied to by the same one that broke up the black family. they are now doing to you what they did to the black man. your faith was placed in what you were promised. it should have been placed in family. the natural order of things are gone. and do not think it will get better soon the man you help put in the white house can not come to your aid for he is control by the enity against family
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By: Zenjen on 9/23/2010 3:37PM
I believe one's mind and body are in sync. People are tired, worried, broke, facing challanges that we never thought we would experience. I think the black community could benefit by first admitting there is a need for mental therapy and then maybe introducing alternative more natural ways to treat it. We do not need to spend so much money on perscription drugs.Go green!! Put more research into natural remedies than those produced in a lab. Oh yeah....then no one will get rich....my bad.
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By: Michelle Bailey on 9/23/2010 4:07PM
I must say this. You are far more than what you think you are. you are preciuos valuble and loved by the people in your life and by God.Do not let the lack of money make you feel worthless. You are so much more than just a paycheck. Hug your children. That doesn't cost anything. Hug your husband. That dosen't cost anything either. I know you are worried I am too. I am in debt also but two years ago I almost died. I am overweight but I am also alive. i think people need to appreciate wwhat they have and quit focusing on what they do not have. Love yourself and love the people in your life. M
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By: William L.Robinson on 9/23/2010 7:38PM
People need to realizes its better to live then die,to die is a sin, if you go by your own hand, God is the giver and taker.
A person need to put their mind, body,soul in Him, the one who made you, first before any thing else, than you consider any and every thing else. God created you to live not die, your body or life is not yours, He that created you.
You just need to seek His face(God) first before any thing else.
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By: Pray on 9/23/2010 8:38PM
I believe this William, but it’s hard. We all need to keep God first and continue to pray. I’ve been unemployed for over two years still looking for a job. I just found out a month ago my former manager that was laid off from the same company last November 09 committed suicide this past July. I thought he was stronger than that. At least he pretended to be when we were both employed. We all have to remember God is never late. I believe we are being tested to see how we are handling this dry season. Continue to remember all the good God has done for you and will continue to do for you.
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